8 Signs Your Husband Wants a Divorce

Love is blind. Oftentimes, recognizing that your spouse is unhappy in your marriage is not as easy as you'd think. Relationships are complex, and men can be difficult to read, leaving you confused about where you stand.

Having awareness when it comes to your marriage is key to sensing whether your husband wants a divorce. Here are 8 common warning signs your husband wants to end your marriage and what you can do about it.

8 Biggest Signs Your Husband Wants a Divorce

[1]. He stops spending time with you.

If you notice that all of a sudden your husband has stopped taking an interest in spending time with you, it may be that he has withdrawn from the marriage. This is known as disengagement. If your husband finds new and creative ways to stay busy outside of the home, it may be time to have a serious conversation.

[2]. Your husband ignores your attempts to communicate or resolve marital issues.

If your husband refuses to work on the marriage and ignores your attempts to communicate, it's a clear and blatant sign that he has given up and doesn't see a future with you. You owe it to yourself to separate from anyone who doesn't wish to communicate or work to improve the marriage. We'd highly consider seeking professional counseling or scheduling a consultation with a San Diego divorce attorney.

[3]. Your husband seems to be irritated by your every move.

Sure, spouses can get on each other's nerves. But if all of a sudden it feels like your every waking action irritates your husband, it's a strong signal that they're pulling out of the relationship. This can also be a sign of emotional abuse. You don't have to walk on eggshells, it may be time to consider leaving him.

[4]. You suspect cheating.

If your husband has all of a sudden gotten possessive with his phone, computer or tablet - an emotional or physical affair may be to blame. Working late and/or scheduling extra business trips lately? Those could also be signs that he is having an affair. If you sense that your spouse is cheating on you, we recommend seeking marriage counseling and studying this pre-divorce preparation checklist.

[[5]: He's stopped pushing you to grow or improve.

If you notice that your husband is passive towards your actions or even dreams - as in, he no longer pushes you to improve, change, or grow, it could be sign that he has given up. If your husband has grown consistently apathetic towards you, he may be emotionally withdrawing and considering divorce.

[6]. Lack of affection or sex.

Has your husband stopped initiating sex? How about touching, kissing, verbal statements of affection and a general lack of intimacy? If he has abandoned intimacy, this is a clear indication that there is something seriously wrong with your marriage. This can also be a sign of depression. Here are tips for recognizing depression in men.

[7]. You never seem to resolve your issues.

All successful marriages require communication. Perhaps you communicate regularly but your conflicts never seem to reach a healthy resolution. This is a huge red flag and indication that your marriage is headed towards divorce.

[8]: He's become obsessed with his appearance.

Often times, when a person is exiting a marriage, they can become obsessed with enhancing their physical appearance. This can mean suddenly becoming fixated on losing weight, spending money on cosmetic treatments, clothes, fitness memberships, etc.

If any of these issues strike a chord with you, it's a serious indication that you are in a troubled marriage. Keep in mind that all marriages have their issues and can be a long, sometimes bumpy road. Having healthy awareness about your unique marriage is key to understanding if your partner is happy or if you're headed for disaster.

If your husband is showing any of the above common signs, we highly encourage you to seek private counseling, open up to a trusted friend, and research divorce attorneys in your area.

If you're looking for more tips and tools for improving your marriage, here are 5 of the best books to read when your marriage is on the fritz.

Family Law experts like Annis and Vercollone can help you understand your legal options when it comes to the divorce process in San Diego. If you have any questions about asking your spouse for a divorce, please contact our team. We'd be happy to schedule a private and complimentary consultation to learn more about your needs.