10 Questions to Help You Know if it’s Time to Divorce
As San Diego Family Law and Divorce experts, we consult with separating and divorcing couples on a daily basis. This gives us incredible insight that we use to help others going through the process. If one thing is certain, it’s that every relationship and marriage is unique. However, there are a few commonalities when facing a decision like divorce.
For instance, many divorcing individuals express how difficult it was to know if it was the right time to leave their spouse. They often question whether they were making the right decision. If you’re reading this and it sounds familiar, don’t worry. This is a completely normal feeling when considering divorce.
The truth is that divorce is a huge, emotional life decision. The process can often have you feeling overwhelmed and confused. Knowing if you should leave your spouse is not always easy. This is especially true for individuals who are not in a physically or emotionally abusive relationship.
[Here are 10 signs of an abusive relationship. If you or someone you love is going through abuse, we highly suggest you contact the National Abuse Hotline.]
However, there are plenty of other valid reasons for considering divorce, but this can leave you thinking, “Maybe this isn’t so bad…am I making the right choice?”
In order to help any of you who may be considering separation or divorce, these 10 questions can help you determine if it’s right for you.
Do you stay at work late or participate in non-work related activities to avoid coming home?
Do you find yourself crying in private - like in the shower or your car - so no one can hear you?
Are there more bad times than good times in your marriage?
Do you feel sick constantly?
Has it been months since you or your spouse has said “I love you?”
Is your sex life very infrequent or non-existent?
Are you eating too much or not eating enough?
Are you having a physical or emotional affair?
Has your partner turned down your suggestions for couples counseling?
Does your partner embarrass or humiliate you in public? Do you often worry they might?
Knowing when it’s time to divorce your husband or wife is not always clear. But if you answered yes to several of these questions, it might be time to more deeply evaluate your marriage. Alternatively, you can open up to a trusted friend or seek private counseling to review your answers with someone you trust.
If you have questions about whether you should stay or leave your marriage, we can lend an ear while offering our legal advice for your unique situation. Your consultations are always confidential. Don’t hesitate to contact us.